For 16 years now, Michaël Youn has shared the life of Isabelle Funaro. Together, the couple had two children, Seven (2011) and Stellar (2019). But, in an interview granted to Guillaume Pley, the actor explained that both had a somewhat special longevity. “You have to know how to separate. We have already separated twice. We separate, we get stuck, we will see elsewhere, we come back.”
The main interested party does not explicitly say that it is a question of going to sleep with someone else, but many media and internet users interpreted his response in this way. Besides, some have even adopted the same technique for a long time.
“We allow ourselves infidelity by big argument”
Madeleine*, 37, has been married to Julien* for 10 years. “We have been together from college, and inevitably, we have known ups and downs. But both, we do not believe in divorce,” said the 30 -year -old. Also, with his companion, they set up a system, after having mistaken each other a few years ago.
“Each time we have a big argument, or that one of us hurts the other, we give ourselves” deception points “. Each point allows us to have one evening with someone else, provided you respect certain rules. Not among our friends or our colleagues, never the same person twice, never with us,” she describes.
“As we are both regularly on the move, it’s practical, we do this when we are far from home. We are not likely to be toast, we do not tell the details … Just, we protect ourselves, and we are tested to avoid risks. It is a perhaps a little weird arrangement, which even our loved ones are not aware. But that suits us, and that helps us to keep the course.” Besides, the couple wonders: “Is it really infidelity, if the other is aware and okay?”. Difficult to say, but after 14 years of relationship, Madeleine and Julien have found a system that suits them.
“It’s like a breathing that we agree every year”
Gina* and Martin* operate on a similar principle, but they have chosen to allow themselves a deception per year, not by argument. “We started doing this after four years of relationship,” recalls the young man. “Today, it’s been nine years since we are in a relationship, and theoretically, we could have been mistaken five times, but I did only twice, and she three, if I am not mistaken. We are not obliged, but it is an authorization that we give ourselves, as a breathing that we agree every year, if the opportunity and the desire presents itself.”
“We have always had good communication,” confirms Gina. “Also, the night when I almost deceived him, 5 years ago, because I was sad, drunk and he had yell at, I preferred to tell him. We talked a lot about it, and we mentioned the possibility of opening our couple, but it was not for us, we did not want regular things. So we stayed on this annual and non -cumulative authorization.”
The only period of “no right”, as Martin explains? “While we were trying to have a child, the pregnancy and the maternity leave of Gina, it was out of the question that we go to see elsewhere, so as not to take risks. Fortunately, Gina fell pregnant right away. We planned to stop these little infidelities by becoming parents, but as long as no one knows anything, and that it does us good … Well that suits us.”
“I tried to go elsewhere, I didn’t like it”
After a violent argument as a couple, the companion of Enzo* said to him: “You just have to go see elsewhere, if you think you can find better than me.” The couple decided to take a break in their relationship, for a few weeks, and the 30 -year -old took the opportunity to multiply the adventures of an evening. “I realized that my girlfriend was right: I never found better. I tried to go see elsewhere, but each time, I thought of her, I compared my partners to her, I feel guilty for not being with her …”, he explains.
“For her part, I don’t know if she slept with anyone else during our breakup, and I don’t want to know,” he said. “I just know that it is by going to see elsewhere that I noticed that I can never be satisfied with another woman. I returned the tail between the legs, and, a few months later, I asked her to marry. Like what, there are couples to whom it is suitable, and other not,” he concludes.
* The first names have been modified
