Emma Becker: “I deplore the gradual disappearance of unifying eroticism”

“We had to be silent, and in this silence our desires became ghosts”. Consequently, In the preface to the collective work Desirewho has just appeared in his pocket. Meanwhile, Charlotte Pudlowski explains the reasons that pushed her to find six authors (Emma Becker, Joy Majdalani, Wendy Delorme…) to write “a world in which women are whole, body and verb”. Therefore, These orders first took the form of the podcast Steamy (Louie Media), then the collection of short stories Desire. Nevertheless, We asked Emma Becker (Odile in summer, The house …) to tell us about his text Paul did not come and emma becker: “i deplore gradual his vision of eroticism.

What interested you with the idea of ​​participating in this collection of erotic texts written by women. Moreover, you who are a regular of its genre?

Emma Becker – The basic postulate was to have authors who write eroticism trying to be funny. In addition, I found it quite innovative: it is very difficult to rally men to our cause when it comes to humor. Nevertheless, I like the idea of ​​associating eroticism. Meanwhile, laughter, it allows you to find common ground in this dynamic of sexuality which can be seen as a field of adversity. Similarly, On the other hand. Meanwhile, I don’t care about the kinds of the authors: I don’t think there is a feminine or male way of writing eroticism. Nevertheless, Making sexuality an opposition ground is in my opinion a bad focal length.

You do not believe in the possibility of emma becker: “i deplore gradual a female gaze When we write eroticism?

I think that in the attempt to absolutely eliminate the male gaze One can give the impression that the. Furthermore, sexual imagination of women should be re -educated. Furthermore, This one has always built a good year. in a sometimes contradictory way on the fantasies of men, which were more widely expressed in literature, cinema … We made, in one way or another, our butter on the male imagination and we managed to invent a parallel. It seems to me that these images complement each other, they are not competing.

In your news, you are interested in a love triangle between a woman and an older couple. Why did you want to explore this dynamic?

What amuses me when I write is to reimagine stories that could have happened to me. I left my first novel Sir To make it an unexpected. completely emma becker: “i deplore gradual imaginary development, but which allowed me an irony and a sarcasm that I did not have when this story happened to me. It was a way to resume a form of power on a situation which. at the time, had completely escaped me.

Do we lose, as we age, this terrible seriousness of their twenties?

I hope ! At twenty. I tended to write sexuality as an abyss, a vertigo, I approached it with great gravity like a rite, a religion. I understood later when I got to know and know men, that humor was essential for satisfactory sexuality. It prevents eroticism a chapel in which some are empowered to write. the others not because they would not have codes or language. This wisdom comes with age. You have to go through disappointing, hurtful or humiliating experiences to get there.

In Desiremany authors try eroticism for the first time, emma becker: “i deplore gradual a genre known to be perilous. How do you know that a sex scene is successful?

It is a very mysterious process for me! Everything is always a question of context. For example. for me, the word “vulva”, which is very anatomical and simple, has long been impossible to read and pronounce. Until I came across Irene’s con D’Aragon, in which the word becomes beautiful, like a caress. Words are never just what the context in fact, I have no recipe. I have always deplored that men ‘books use words without ambocurys as “cock”. “pussy”, while literature has forced the authors to fruit or floral analogies that do not bother or bother anyone. While if you ask the question around you. you will see that women are much more precise and graphic than men when they talk about sex.

The idea of Desire is to open representations of sexuality. emma becker: “i deplore gradual There is still a lot to explore in this area?

Yes ! Sexuality is a pool of ideas, novels, drawings, music. Desire is a constant bubbling that it is impossible to circumscribe. which sometimes goes completely in reverse to our moral values, our principles and which nevertheless reinforce them. Because the fantasy points to us an adversity, a duplicity. I deplore a little the gradual disappearance of unifying eroticism in what we look at, listen and read. When we talk about sex. we talk above all about the extreme solitude of people, and how we try to lessen him.

Desire (collective work), near collection/iconoclast. 157p., € 7.90. In bookstores.